I just wanted to say that it’s totally, 100% okay to have/need a caregiver!
It doesn’t matter if you’re 5 or 50
It doesn’t matter if you’re male, female or anything in between/outside the binary
It doesn’t matter if it’s full time or part time
It doesn’t matter if you need it since childhood or started needing it as a teen/adult/elder
It doesn’t matter if your caregiver is a family member, a partner, a friend or someone else
It doesn’t matter if you need a lot of help or not much at all, or the type of support you need
You shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed for having a caregiver. You’re not a burden or less of a human being for that, no matter what people say. You have the right to get all the help you need.
“I hope you live without the need to dominate, and without the need to be dominated. I hope you are never victims, but I hope you have no power over other people. And when you fail, and are defeated, and in pain, and in the dark, then I hope you will remember that darkness is your country, where you live, where no wars are fought and no wars are won, but where the future is. Our roots are in the dark; the earth is our country. Why did we look up for blessing — instead of around, and down? What hope we have lies there. Not in the sky full of orbiting spy-eyes and weaponry, but in the earth we have looked down upon. Not from above, but from below. Not in the light that blinds, but in the dark that nourishes, where human beings grow human souls.”
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Ursula K. Le Guin, “A Left-Handed Commencement Address” (Mills College, 1983)
this passage planted itself in my consciousness when i was 24, and 10 years later, it informs so much of my approach to living, thinking, creating.
Gracecursed 